The 4th Option
Sensual Massage & Psychosensual Massage Treatments for Women
What take a sensual massage?
I like to view the sensual massage as a woman 4th option
Traditionally sexual stimulation can be experienced in three ways:
1. With partner – intimate, trusting, caring.
2. With a stranger (one night stand) – exciting, spontaneous, non emotional and no commitment.
3. Masturbation – private, I know that I like.
Taking a sensual (erotic) massage offers all the above but combined. It is caring, you focussed, supportive, exciting, expertly given with someone who understand a woman’s body and mind, discrete, confidential, private, non emotional, non judgemental, complete openness to explore your feelings, curiosities and desires.
Colin is experienced
Colin has given sexual performance mentoring sensual massage and erotic bodywork to women for six years. In November 2015 he was featured in a 6-page article in Cosmopolitan magazine titled ‘Would you pay this man £175 to give you an orgasm’ and in December 2017 Cosmopolitan again featured his work with women in this Article.
Colin has also had his unique treatments and workshops featured by the BBC, The Independent,Mail Online, Reveal Magazine, I News and The Daily Mirror and is the appointment Sex Mentor and runs workshops events and writes for the international adult party club for the ‘sexual elite’ Killing Kittens
Colin’s mission is to make available his skills as a sex mentor, masseur and relationship psychologist to as many women (and couples) as possible. Colin believes that the suppression of female sexuality is nothing short of a crime against humanity. For many centuries women have been forced to contain and control their sexuality. Culture, religion, social rules even misguided experts have coerced women into believing that they are not entitled to be sexual beings. Female sexuality has a profound place in human nature. Without this powerful life force society, the human race itself, would not exist. Consequently, natures has embodied women with complex physiological, psychological, emotional and sexual processes that are designed to maintain the optimum biology and social support to ensure the survival of her and her offspring. These primal processes are still beating loudly within every female today and it is vital for a woman’s well-being that this sexual energy is exercised regularly. When it comes to sexuality and what turns women on, women are often regarded as complex even confused but this opinion is usually given by men. This is because men are trying to understand female sexuality from the male’s perspective. A man’s relationship with sex is quite simple, quantity over quality. Whereas a females sexual strategy is manifold with quantity equal to quality.
For 950,000 years and more before humans developed from being hunter-gatherers to farmers, a sharing society to proprietary society, women behaved sexually in a very different way. In order to make sure she survived childbirth, produced both healthy offspring and that both she and the child survived the female would mate with multiple males. This not only gave her a better chance of her body selecting the optimum sperm it also created multiple paternity as none of the males she had sex with would know whose offspring it was so they all had a vested interest in keeping the child alive. The female is both seeking to create a sperm war as well as a ruse to have the support of multiple males with different skills and characteristics to make sure she and the offspring survive. So when having sex with males the female mind is as much at work as is her body, seeking out not just one suitable mate but multiple mates. So making sexual monogamy as inapplicable from sexual sense to women as it is to men. However, in today’s society, sexual openness is still frowned upon and it takes s a confident woman to follow her sexual feelings freely. This is where sensual massage can play a big part and help women overcomes many frustrations around their need for intimacy, arousal and sexual fulfilment.
Not just for pleasure
Taking a sensual massage should not be viewed as just a pleasure for women. It should also be regarded as an important part of a healthy lifestyle for both a woman’s body and her mind. It provides her with time to be a receiver, it gives her the opportunity to experience different sensual and sexual dynamics, it provides her with a non-judgemental, not expective environment and it normalises sexual arousal as a natural function.
Lack of arousal can cause poor well-being
But when a woman finds herself in a situation where her natural sexual feelings are denied, (non-sexual relationship) suppressed (religious or cultural dogma) or simply switched off and ignored (trauma and rape) then nature can be pragmatic and soon her health and well-being can be negatively effected. Disconnection, frustration, rejection, depression and poor health can be a consequence of a lack of sexual intimacy and erotic arousal.
Listen to your body
If a woman is feeling sexually needy then it is a clear indication that her body is speaking to her. Masturbation is one solution and although very pleasurable it does not recreate the intimacy of foreplay and primal energy of penetrative sex. Taking a sensual massage provides an opportunity to satisfy this desire, safely and discreetly.
The skill of a professional sensual masseur is to be able to create with their hands and imagination the same erotic effect that a woman would experience with prolonged varied sexual arousal. Combine this with the intimacy and arousing touch of a relaxing professional massage and she will immediately feel the benefits. Female clients have reported back very soon after a massage that they feel emotionally elated, more grounded, calmer, less anxious, more confident and feel physically relaxed and healthier. If taken regularly then even more profound effect can be experienced such as an improved immune system, better skin, natural loss of weight.
Some might think good girls don’t do this. I say ‘ Clever girls do this’!
Colin has been working as a professional relationship therapist masseur and mentor for sexual development for men women and couples for twelve years and in this time he has given over 8000 hours of sensual massage. His female clients range from single women, married women, women with partners, women of all ages from 18 to 80 years, all with varying body types from petite to voluptuous and of many different ethnicities and cultures.
What reasons do women give for wanting a sensual massage?
Some women give the reason for wanting the massage as simply a desire for personal exploration and pleasure others it can be a need to satisfy sexual frustration. Some come for advice and treatment for a sexual performance problem such as an inability to orgasm or fear of intimacy. Others come along for just “me time”. Whoever the person or whatever reason they give my goal is to give them an experience that is not only professional, caring and safe but also one that is profoundly satisfying and fulfilling, some say life-changing.
25 reasons given by female clients for taking a sensual massage
- I am tense and need an unconditional orgasmic release.
- Difficulty reaching orgasm when with another person.
- Curiosity and satisfying a fantasy.
- Lack of sexual stimulation in my relationship.
- Recently my libido has increased considerably.
- Frustration/lack of stimulation by my partner.
- Guilt/Morality/Shame around sex.
- Letting go of control and trusting others with control.
- Recoverer of sexual aggression/abuse.
- Complacency in a relationship = no longer stimulated by my partner.
- I love my partner but I find I now feel sexually lacking with him.
- Lack of skill/knowledge by myself and partner.
- I am on holiday/business so free to explore my erotic needs.
- Postmenopausal and still very sexual.
- Postmenopausal and still very sexual and my partner is not.
- Convenience and self-care (busy professionals who don’t want a relationship).
- I have cultural or religious restrictions and I need a safe place to explore my sexuality.
- Exploration of sexual practices as yet untried or unwanted by my partner.
- Poor body image and lack of sexual self-esteem.
- I want my partner to watch me have a sensual massage.
- I want my partner to give me four hands with the masseur.
- I want to explore my bisexuality with a male & female masseur couple.
- I want to explore Female Orgasm Denial
- I want to feel desired and dominated
- I have always had a fantasy of being erotically massaged by a masseur.
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Click here to read more about Colin and watch his interview
Click on the links below to read the various massage choices
For Pleasure & Exploration
- 2 hands sensual massage (2 hands 60 min Tension Release, 90 min Kama Sutra or 105-minute Absolute massage given only by Colin)
- 4 hands with two male masseurs (Colin + another male masseur)
- 4 hands with a male and female couple (Colin + female masseur)
For Healing & Help
- 3 hour psycho-sensual massage (Counselling & the Kama sutra or Absolute sensual massage combined to help with improving orgasm & sexual performance)
My promise to take great care to look after you.
I aim to create a place and space where it is OK for you to let go and explore your natural primal erotic energies. A place where you can express yourself freely in movement and sound and behave in any way you want without any concern of being judged and criticised. I can give treatments in my own discreet, private, professional treatment rooms in Pimlico or by prior arrangement at other locations or I can come to your private location.
A sensual massage can be taken to just enjoy intimate relaxing escapism, where you can just lay back and take pleasure having your body being massaged, stimulated, aroused and cared for. Where there is no expectation for you to give in return unless you desire to. Or, for others, it can be a journey of erotic exploration between two people to investigate fantasies and desires that may not be appropriate or possible in their day to day lives.
I maintain a high standard personal health and always respect your limits but hope to nudge some of your sensual boundaries. I ensure total confidentiality and discretion, so there is no fear of anything or anyone intruding into your day to day life.
View Massage Demonstration Videos
There are two ways to view examples of the massages being given
- FREE VIEW 5 demonstration videos by registering to enter the Intimacy X private area [Click Here]
- For those that don’t want to register their details you can PAY PER VIEW individually 10 demonstration videos [Click Here]
[Click Here] To read the many testimonials received from female clients
[Click Here] To read the Uncensored Descriptions of the ‘Absolute Massage’ and the ‘Sensual Massage’. Reading this will answer many of your questions regarding the procedure and erotic content.
[Click Here] To ask a question or to book an appointment.
Would you like to volunteer as a ‘Receiver’ in one of my workshops?
If you are keen to explore new experiences and want to enjoy free sensual massage then register as either workshop volunteer or a movie model participant. I run regular workshops and events that require volunteer bodies to lay on the massage tables and be practised on by the guests. I also make sensual massage tutorial movies at which I often need volunteers. If you are interested in either or both then please complete the registration form below. You do need to have reasonable access to London.
[Click here] To register your interest in being a volunteer]
Female Sexuality Survey
This survey is an attempt to understand better some particular dynamics about female sexuality. Masturbation, orgasm and bisexual exploration are all areas that are becoming openly discussed between friends and partners. But do we fully comprehend how the female mind influences the female body? Can we fathom how and why a woman’s sexuality and sexual pleasure may work or not work in certain scenarios or with certain people?
Sex Engineer & Relationship Therapist Colin Richards has put together this short survey to collate data from as many and varied women as possible of what works or not for women.
Please help him The survey takes 5 minutes to complete the survey.