The Cuckold Massage

massage008aIncreasingly couples, same sex and opposite sex, are exploring sensual massage. Many are usually looking to enjoy a massage with their partner and arrange for two masseurs to give them a sensual massage simultaneously. This is usually done with the male masseur giving to the female and female masseur giving to the male. However some couples will use use this scenario as a chance to explore their sexuality. For example, a man and women who want to experience intimate touch from someone of the same sex but want it to take place in a controlled safe space and with their partner present, may select a combination of a male and female masseur but ask them to swop over during the massage. The male masseur will begin on the female and the female masseur on the male then during the massage the masseurs swop several times thus allowing the couple to explore same sex touch and intimacy in an intimate and non threatening way. This combination also works for gay couple who want to explore touch from a female but again in a place where they can feel they do not need to reciprocate or perform and have the familiarity of male masseur should they get nervous. Another couples massage type that is becoming more and more popular is what I call the Cuckold Massage.

The Cuckold Experience

I have given the Cuckold Massage to both opposite sex and same sex couples though at the moment it seems to be growing in popularity more with heterosexual couples. It seems that when the a man who does not see himself as bisexual or even bi curious can find that watching his wife or girlfriend being touched and aroused by a male masseur during a massage, a real turn on. Occasionally it can be the female who is the cuckold and she enjoys watching her male partner explore male to male erotic touch while she looks on. To be a true cuckold the watcher must remain just watching and never take part in the massage however for those that do want to join in at the end I also offer the option of the Voyeur Massage where the watcher joins in during the last 20 minutes.

To be Cuckold historically referred to a husband with an adulterous wife and is still often used with this meaning. In evolutionary biology, the term cuckold is also applied to males who are unwittingly invest parental effort in offspring that are not genetically their own. Since the 1990s, the term has also been widely used to refer to a sexual fetish in which the fetishist is stimulated by their committed partner choosing to have sex with someone else.

Historically, the term was generally considered to be a great insult, and leveling an accusation that a husband had raised another man’s child (thus implying that he had been a cuckold) was deemed a provocation that demanded a fight to the death.

Psychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticisation of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the man’s competition for procreation and the affection of females.

Biologist Robin Baker who wrote “Sperm Wars”  speculated that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain. According to one of his theories, Baker believes that when a man thinks that his female mate may have been sexual with another man, the man is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female in an effort to “compete” with the other man’s sperm. 

In my practice at Massage33 I am increasingly I am seeing couples for sensual massage where the male partner wants to sit and watch as his girlfriend or wife receives the sensual massage in front of him.  As the massage progresses the male partner will often undress and begin to arouse himself and the more aroused his partner becomes during the massage the more turned on he becomes. I don’t think that it is always from a masochistic motivation that a man want to be cuckold since in many cases I see the man getting pleasure because he is sharing his partner with another man and that the by giving his partner to another man he derives a sense of approval and acceptance from the other (possibly more dominant) male.

I see this like a adult version of the clever but not naturally sporty kid in the playground who wants to be included in the “Cool Kids” gang but only gets accepted when he has something of value to offer (sweets, toys etc ). So the cuckolded man offers his female parter to the fit, rich or well connected man so that he can, by proxy benefit from the relationship between them.

Although the cuckold massage seems to be more popular with heterosexual couples I am now seeing the occasional gay couple.

Colin says ” the fetish of the Cuckold fascinates me and I am very interested to hear from any man straight, bi or gay who finds the thought of watching their partner being erotically massaged a turn on.

Are you a Cuckold? Do you have a partner who likes to be cuckold? If so get in touch with Colin at colin@massage33.com

To book a Cuckold Massage or Voyeur Massage go to Couples Cuckold Massage