Questions I am often asked.
- What is a sensual massage?
- Is sensual massage similar to tantric massage?
- Is it erotic? Is it sexual? Is it a proper massage?
- Will it be good for me?
- Where can I get the best erotic massage in London?
A sensual massage, like a tantric massage, is given by the masseurs with a genuine sense of care and intimacy and involves intentional arousal of the body often resulting in orgasm. Both a sensual massage and tantric massage are physical and emotional experiences, However, the main difference is that a tantric massage usually includes more spiritual aspects such as chanting rituals, deep breathing exercises and non-intimate contact with the giver. Whereas a sensual massage follows a more humanistic process and concentrates more on giving the receiver an authentic full body therapeutic massage with that combines traditional massage strokes with intentional arousing techniques aimed to slowly relax and simultaneously arouse the receiver.
In a tantric massage the ethos is to NOT take the receiver to full orgasm but only to near orgasm; the masseur is usually partially or fully clothed and the massage doesn’t usually become mutually intimate. Whereas the sensual massage is given as a journey for both the giver and the receiver and with attention just on the receiver or a more two-way experience, the essence of sensual touch and sexual intimacy is always maintained.
Consequently, in a sensual massage, the masseur is usually naked when giving the massage and is comfortable to receive intimate reciprocal body to body touch. Additionally, the aim of the sensual massage is to promote arousal in order to slowly take the receiver to orgasm (often multiple orgasms in the case of women).
All sensual masseurs will have their personal interpretation of what a sensual massage should include. Generally, it should be founded upon a high-quality therapeutic massage that can be given firmly to work the muscles or gently to promote relaxation or a combination of both. It should be intentionally arousing and include light touch with fingers and nails all over the body including the hand’s feet and head as well as the genitals and bum. A good sensual masseur should be able to build the arousal slowly throughout the whole treatment, to seduce the body and thus to cause the receiver’s mind to relax and focus solely on the touch. It should be an experience that is exciting and stimulating: two human beings sharing a dance of erotic intimacy, the extent of which is left to the chemistry and energy of the moment.
Why do we love to be touched?
Without a shadow of doubt receiving intimate, sensual touch is one of the most pleasant sensations that a person can experience. The sense of touch is a vital part of the human condition and is arguably one of our earliest forms of communication. It is accepted that both our physiology and neurology are specifically designed to facilitate it and when a person is touched it also has a profound effect on our psychology. A slap given with aggression can hurt and indicate anger causing us to feel fear or anger in return. A firm hand on the shoulder or back will give us a feeling of friendship or support. Intimate, caring touch, particularly when combined with stimulating arousal can create a feeling of trust and closeness, a factor that is essential in the bonding of human relationships and thus the continuation of the species.
In the beginning
From our earliest Homo Sapiens ancestors who lived 250,000 years ago to probably as recent as 5000 years ago, tactile intimate touch between humans would almost certainly have been offered and received unconditionally. It would be given without cultural, religious or social controls and probably not seen solely as sexual communication but also as a system to establish both mixed and same sex cooperation. It would have stimulated group security and collaboration, ensuring in times of danger and stress, the support between one human to another. It would have helped determine hierarchy, established trusting relationships, promote teamwork and loving bonds.
Not much has changed in our biology since those early times, and for most of us, the desire and pleasure to be touched by another is still very much within us. When we are touched the skin receptors pass the response information through to the central nervous system which in turn influences the autonomic nervous system. The autonomic nervous system connects to the deepest and most ancient part of our brain known as the Stem or Reptilian brain. This ancient part of the brain can be traced back to over 200 million years of mammal evolution. It is concerned with our most basic primary needs such as survival, physical maintenance, hoarding, dominance, preening and mating and from these basic urges activate the emotions of love, hate, fear, lust, and contentment.
In early man, the distinction of intimate behaviour being appropriate or inappropriate would not have existed; there would have been no social, cultural or religious rules controlling our natural desires and need for intimate touch. Our behaviour would be instinctual, when hungry; we would look for food. When under threat; we fought or ran and when in need of a sense of belonging; we would have sought intimacy from other humans. There is no greater affirmation of an individual’s acceptance than to touch and be touched intimately, to care and be cared for, without condition, expectation or obligation.
Sensual Massage is an ancient natural medicine for today’s stressful times
By providing a person with a non-judgmental, honest, open environment where it is not only OK to feel arousal but appropriate, the sensual massage is probably one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have, enabling both the body and mind to relax in a way that regular massage does not. By reducing tension and stress or an anxiety of the body, the mind remains calm. As the body becomes more sensually aroused the sensory messages transmitting from the skin and erogenous areas reaffirm the mind that we are safe. Hormones such as oxytocin, progesterone and testosterone are released causing us our muscles to relax; the mind falls into a subconscious state, and for a few hours we can literally exist in the “moment.”
Who can benefit from having a sensual massage?
Everyone, but, of course, since we are all individuals each with a unique life experience and lifestyle the benefit can vary from person to person. For many the massage can be a glorious discovery of escapism, for others, it can be a place to release the tension of a hectic life, for some it can be about exploration of the self, one’s sensuality and sexuality. It can also be very beneficial for those experiencing sexual anxieties and performance problems.
In men particularly, it can simply be about male to male bonding, or it can help with overcoming erectile issues, premature ejaculation, sexuality exploration, loss of libido, fear of intimacy. For women, the massage can be about having the opportunity to have their body physically seduced and stimulated without feeling self-conscious or that they may be judged or expected to perform in a particular way sexually. For couples, it is a wonderful way to reignite the sexual relationship by learning now skills to practice on one another. It can be given as a gift by one partner to the other to let them experience another person’s touch without threatening the relationship.
Whoever is receiving the massage it will be an experience that is profound and revolutionary We live in a time when there is so much controlled, and much is expected of us. By having a sensual massage, we return to our primal instincts and our primal desires.
Sensual massage is ultimately about caring for oneself through another person’s energy and physical skills. Arousal and stimulation is an essential part of the massage, but orgasm is optional but can also be an important part of the process since following the orgasm the feelings of relaxation and wellbeing can be profound.
How can I tell a good sensual massage therapist
The therapist should be professional in style and approach inspiring trust and a sense of integrity in the client. The treatment area should be warm, clean, comfortable and welcoming. The therapist should take the time to explain the process of the massage and answer any questions that the client may have.The massage should include both therapeutic massage of the whole body as well as intimate, sensual, arousing massage of the erogenous and genital areas.The massage should be caring and meaningful with the therapist inspiring a sense of genuine “love” for what they do and to whom they do it too. The therapist should be able to work intuitively understanding the client’s specific needs but at the same time making clear their own personal physical boundaries.
General description of Colin’s Sensual Massage
Below is a general description of the 90-minute sensual massage that Colin gives to both men and women. However every massage is tailor made to an individuals requirements and desires and whether it is being given for relaxation and escapism, sexual and sensual adventure, performance reasons. Same sex curiosity or couples exploration.
The 4 Sensual Massage Phases
- Stage 1: Sensual Therapeutic phase (15 minutes)
- Stage 2: Gentle Arousal phase (15 minutes)
- Stage 3: Sensual Arousal phase (30 minutes)
- Stage 4: Erotic & Orgasmic phase to total relaxation (30 minutes)
Sensual Therapeutic Phase
The Sensual Therapeutic phase lasts about 20 minutes and is focused on the shoulders and back of the upper body. The aim is to encourage the client into a further relaxed state. With the use of light touch, feathers and soft, caring touch combined with more traditional deep tissue muscle work cause the client to further to “let go”. The combination of soft strokes with stronger deeper massage generates a confidence within the client and a genuine feeling of being cared for. This is followed by the gentle teasing of the more intimate areas of the body making the skins sensory receptors send signals to the brain, the brain responds by stimulating the body’s para sympathetic nervous system (relax and rest mode), and the massage progresses into the Gentle Arousal Phase.
Gentle Arousal phase
By now the client is usually well on the sensual journey, still aware of what is taking place but beginning to “drift away” losing themselves to the sensations of the massage. Further exploration into the intimate crevices of the body namely the neck, armpits, groin and pelvic areas are all stimulated. Arousal begins to increase usually causing an erection (men) and lubrication (women) accompanied by deeper breathing and some involuntary movements of the body. The skin becomes more sensitive to body contact between the masseur and client increases. And the brain begins to drifts in and out of awareness.
The Sensual Arousal phase
During this phase, direct contact with the genitals takes place, in the male the Penis (now erect), Scrotum and in women, the outer lips of the Vagina and areas around the Groin and Anus are lightly touched and massaged. Careful notice is taken not to take the client to orgasm but to hold them at a high level of arousal then falling back to relaxation and back again to high arousal; this is done several times. During this phase in the massage, the client is encouraged to be self-focussed enjoying the stimulation and to not worry about their “performance” or the “other” however for some physical contact with the masseur preferred and since when an “intimate connection” is made arousal can increase considerably.
Orgasm to Relaxation
The male sexual response cycle consists of excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. The first 3 phases of this massage cover the first two elements of this cycle. During this phase of the massage, the body and mind becomes paradoxically, both deeply relaxed and highly aroused, this contradictory state causes the bodies’ nervous system to oscillate between its sympathetic and parasympathetic modes as the mind focuses on the sensations of the final ascent to orgasm. At the pinnacle of orgasm control is given over to the primal response of orgasm and in men ejaculation) the muscles tense, the breathing increases, often the client becomes more verbal emitting pleasurable moans. Orgasms are usually a combination of peripheral (genital or extra-genital) stimulation and a mental “letting go.” Neurologically speaking, it is accepted that the pathways for ejaculation and orgasm are under a tonic inhibitory influence and that the release of this inhibition is cerebrally influenced. Without this release, the normal orgasmic and ejaculatory reflexes cannot be expressed.With the final orgasmic rush comes a massive release of energy, triggering the immediate after effect of relaxation when the male body, immediately following ejaculation, falls back into the deep state of resolution. The body relaxes and encouraged by stroking of the head and scalp the body quickly falls into “rest, relax and re-cooperate mode. With the drifting into a deep state of subconscious even light sleep.
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