Sex Engineer, Sensual Masseur & Relationship Therapist
Since 2005 I have been committed to my mission of teaching people how to achieve sensual intimacy, better communication and erotic fulfilment within relationships. I am passionate about this subject. My treatments and expertise are open and accessible to all. I work with men, women and couples from all ethnicities, backgrounds, cultures, sexual orientations and ages.
Amongst my services, I …
run interactive workshops on sex and sexuality.
mentor single men, women and couples on how to improve intimacy and sexual performance.
provide face to face or Skype mentoring.
give sensual massage treatments to private clients as individual appointments.
The evolution of my career as a sex and relationship mentor
I have always been fascinated by human behaviour and the issues behind people’s actions. My parents owned the Gara Rock Hotel, a 130-bed family hotel in Salcombe, South Devon, which I grew up in. From a young age, I interacted with a wide variety of people including guests, suppliers, parents and – observing the hotel industry – it was a little like Fawlty Towers on a larger scale. At the age of 22 I took over as Managing Director after my parents’ retirement. I was well equipped for the role, having experienced all aspects of running the business. At various times up to my 42nd birthday as Managing Director, I took on multiple roles including day to day management, food and beverage buyer, HR for up to 40 staff, entertainment host, relief chef, barman, waiter, receptionist, and even in the closed winter months, plumber and decorator. In short, my interpersonal skills and ability to relate to people became second nature. I can now offer newcomers to Intimacy Matters a very warm welcome and put them at ease in this unfamiliar situation.
In 2002, I left the hospitality industry and tried to take on a conventional 9 to 5 job. I quickly discovered that working for someone else was not for me. I embarked on a field of study which has become a lifelong passion. I trained as a life coach and therapeutic masseur at The Association of Natural Medicine in Totnes, Devon and then undertook a 2-year training in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy at Regent’s College in London. Further training included a certificated Imago Educator and foundation training in NLP and Hypnotherapy. Armed with my certificates, I was confident I could pursue a career which enabled me to help people and make use of my unique combination of innate skills.
I moved to London in 2005 and began working as a Sensual Massage Therapist and Sexual Performance and Relationship Mentor. I immediately became aware that a significant number of men and women needed discreet, practical support and guidance in their sex lives. These revelations led me to start up both Singles and Couples Therapy.
My business expanded rapidly, solely on the strength of recommendations by satisfied clients. Since 2001, 6000 men and women have used my services. Furthermore, the past decade has been extremely rewarding for me on a personal and professional level. In addition to providing high-quality services, I’ve gained profound insight and understanding about a range of psychosexual issues.
Several themes emerged: the complexities of creating intimacy, building fulfilling relationships and the impact of touch in our daily lives. I noticed that many of my clients were struggling with feeling isolated or frustrated. Others grappled with self-inflicted criticism, judgmental or ignorant attitudes cultivated in early childhood. I was touched by my clients’ stories and wanted to find meaningful strategies to help them.
I decided that my approach to teaching alternative sexual education would have to be down to earth, straightforward and open. I am an educator, teacher and mentor on sexual issues. I’ve created a discreet and welcoming environment which affords people the opportunity to discuss their psychosexual concerns and also receive the practical tools to tap into their innate sensuality.
I‘m a versatile trainer and teacher. My experience is based on anecdotal evidence, personal insights and academic study. I share my message across a variety of forums: as a massage therapist, a sex mentor or consultant, or when speaking at an event or leading a special interest workshop.
I live and work in my riverside apartment in Pimlico, Central London but I am also available to travel in the UK and abroad to see clients and run workshops.
I am the host for Intimacy Matters Presents, an event for members and guests which I have held at Home House and Century Club two of London’s premier private members clubs in Marylebone and Soho.
I am also the appointed Sex Mentor for Adult Lifestyle Club, Killing Kittens.
I have been featured in national media, including the BBC World Service, Mail on Line, Cosmopolitan, Daily Mirror, I-News, The Times, The Independent and Reveal magazine.
I give regular public talks on topics related to sex and relationships, through the Funzing community.
My personal background
I have five adult children (two sons and three daughters) from my 17-year marriage. I am now in a long-term relationship with my female partner.
We’re an outgoing and sociable couple who enjoy attending gatherings, talks, restaurants and the theatre. I am health conscious and maintain an active lifestyle by swimming regularly, playing tennis, squash as well as skiing.
COLIN TALKS SEX
In this 10-minute video interview (15/2/18) recorded for mental health resource charity website Head Talks Colin advocates that healthy physical and mental well-being must include a fulfilling sex life, where sexual satisfaction and sensual intimacy can flourish freely without judgement or cultural constraints.
To broadcaster Jackie Walker as she talks to Colin about massage & sensuality.
Click on the links below to listen to Colin’s radio interview: