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Psychosensual Massage
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In early man the distinction of intimate behaviour being appropriate or inappropriate would not have existed, there would have been no social, cultural or religious rules controlling our natural desires and need for intimate touch. Our behaviour would have been instinctual, when hungry; we would have looked for food, when under threat; we fought or ran and when in need of a sense of belonging; we would have sought intimacy from other humans. There is no greater affirmation of an individual’s acceptance than to touch and be touched intimately, to care and be cared for, without condition, expectation or obligation and it is this philosophy that is the basis of Psychosensual Massage. By providing a client with a non judgemental, honest open environment where it is not only “ok” to feel arousal but actually appropriate makes this massage probably one of the most relaxing fulfilling experiences one can have. It enables both the body and mind to relax in a way that regular massage does not. By removing any fear of the body reacting inappropriately the mind remains calm, additionally as the body becomes more sensually aroused the sensory messages sent to the brain from the skin and erogenous areas re affirm the mind that we are safe to let our defences down and enjoy the experience. Consequently muscles relax, the mind falls in to a sub conscious state and for a few hours we can literally exist in the “moment”. For whom is Psychosensual Massage good for? Generally everyone, but of course since we are all individuals each with a unique life experience and lifestyle the benefit can vary from person to person. For many the massage can be a glorious discovery of escapism, for others it can be a place to release the tension of a hectic life, for some it can be about exploration of the self, ones sensuality and sexuality. It can also be very beneficial for those experiencing sexual anxieties and performance problems. In men erectile issues, premature ejaculation, sexuality exploration, loss of libido, fear of intimacy are some of the issues I have helped male clients with in the past 5 years. For women the massage can also be about some of the issues mentioned above but also the opportunity to receive a massage that includes intimate touch and arousal without the need for sexual performance. It can be enlightening to have the body physically adored without condition and new experience for many women. Booking A Psychosensual Massage These can only be booked with Col Individual Treatments – relaxation and escape 2 hour appointments can be taken as individual appointments. The massage is 90 min in duration with a further 30 min to allow for discussion and showering. A series of appointments – treating issues, improving performance For clients wishing to receive advice and support and also learn techniques to help with sexual performance issue or fear of intimacy then I recommend a minimum of 3 sessions. The first appointment is 2 hours (45 min discussion with 75 min massage) with following appointments at 90 min (20 min discussion and 60 min massage). 1st Appointment – Introduction, explanation, understanding, building trust. 2nd Appointment – Relaxation, awareness, techniques, self focus and self awareness 3rd Appointment –, Liberation of desires, confidence to express, sexual and sensual connection. For further enquiries please fill in the enquiry form or call me on 07966 522 696 or you can email me on colin@massage33.com To make an appointment with Col, please complete the appointment form. How the Treatment is given The treatment is given in the quiet relaxed environment of the treatment room. Upon arrival 15-30 min is put aside to talk through your motivations, expectations and any concerns or questions you have for the massage. I give you a clear description of the process explaining the level of sensuality and any hear any concerns you have. If you have not had one before arriving then you can take a shower prior to the beginning of the treatment. The Pshycosensual Massage is given slowly and seductively, I take you on a 4 part journey from the usual state of tension that many often arrive in through a journey of relaxation and arousal to the orgasmic high and eventual fulfilment of total rest. Each phase of the massage has its particular focus and motivation. The Sensual Therapeutic phase lasts about 20 minutes and is focused on the shoulders and back of the upper body. The aim is to encourage your mind and body into the first stages of relaxation. With the use of light touch, feathers and soft caring strokes combined with more traditional deep tissue muscle work your body will begin to “let go”. This is followed by gentle teasing of the more intimate areas of the body causing your skins sensory preceptors to send signals to the brain, the brain responds by stimulating the body’s para sympathetic nervous system (relax and rest mode) and as the brain begins to register the arousal the hold it has on the muscles begins to release. By now you will be well on the way of the sensual journey, you will still be aware of what is taking place but beginning to “drift off” losing yourself to the sensations of the intimate touch. I continue with further exploration into the intimate crevices of the body namely the neck, armpits, groin and pelvic areas. Arousal begins to increase usually causing erection (men) and lubrication (women) accompanied by deeper breathing and some involuntary movements of the body. The skin becomes more sensitive as touch between the masseur and client increases and the mind begins to drifts in and out of awareness. During this phase I make direct contact with the genitals, in the male the Penis (now erect), Scrotum and in women the outer lips of the Vagina and areas around the Groin and Anus are lightly touched and massaged. At this stage, the intention is to not to take the client to orgasm but to hold them at a high level of arousal and then falling back to relaxation and back again to high arousal. During this phase in the massage the client is encouraged to be self focussed enjoying the stimulation and not to worry about their “performance” or the to be focussed on someone else. However for some 1-1 contact with the masseur can be a way to create and enhance an intimate bond without it becoming sexual. The male sexual response cycle consists of excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. The first 3 phases of this massage covers the first two elements of this cycle. During this phase of the massage the body and mind becomes paradoxically, both deeply relaxed and highly aroused, this contradictory state causes the bodies’ nervous system to oscillate between its sympathetic and para sympathetic modes as the mind focuses on the sensations of the final ascent to orgasm. At the pinnacle of orgasm control is given over to the primal response of orgasm and in men during ejaculation the muscles tense, the breathing increases, often expressing the sensation verbally. Orgasms are usually a combination of peripheral (genital or extra-genital) stimulation and a mental “letting go.” Neurologically speaking, it is accepted that the pathways for ejaculation and orgasm are under a tonic inhibitory influence, and that the release of this inhibition is cerebrally influenced. Without this release, the normal orgasmic and ejaculatory reflexes cannot be expressed. With the final orgasmic rush comes a massive release of energy, triggering the immediate after effect of relaxation when the male body, immediately following ejaculation, falls back into the deep state of resolution. The body relaxes and encouraged by stroking of the head and scalp the body quickly falls in to “rest, relax and re cooperate mode. With the drifting into a deep state of sub conscious even light sleep. Erectile Dysfunction For many men, the image of self is inevitably linked to a perception of masculinity which in turn involves functioning and performing well sexually. Things can go wrong at any point of the 3 stages of producing and maintaining an erection and can be as a result of either physiological or psychological influences or often a combination of both. Cardiovascular diseases, Diabetes, Disease of the Nervous System, Aging, Medications, Smoking, Alcoholism, and Hormone Imbalance and can be treated with medical support. However in most cases the condition can also be influenced by Psychological processes and in many cases be the prime reason for intermittent erectile dysfunction. Generally if involuntary erection occurs during the night or on waking in the morning but does not occur or is lost during conscious sex (with another or even during masturbation) then other emotional based influences will be the source. How Can a Sensual Massage Help? The environment of the massage room and the openness of the masseur immediately change the modus operandi and create a supportive caring situation where the focus on performance is removed and where the receiver can concentrate on what he is feeling rather than what he is doing. As the massage unfolds the body becomes further relaxed, with the sensual strokes of the massage encouraging arousal to take place. With anxiety levels low and the body rested with attention on “self” erection will generally occur. However throughout the massage the masseur will incorporate certain movements that may mildly raise anxiety thus effecting the erection. By observing and reading these minute changes of the dynamic the masseur can often interpret the psychological triggers that flick the arousal switch giving an indication as to what emotion is influencing the erection process. At the same time with the attention on himself the receiver is also able to become aware of the moments when erection is effected either positively or negatively. Discussion following the massage often reveals a core emotion/reaction that is at the root of the anxiety enabling further counselling to target better the influencing dynamic and its source. Definitions of premature ejaculation have ranged from "coming within six thrusts" to "coming within two minutes" and even "coming before your partner". The last one can be particularly misleading if you have a partner who likes to take up to an hour to reach orgasm. By providing a calm supportive environment the stress and excitement levels often contributing to PE are lessened considerably. Additionally by talking through the issues before the massage anxiety of performance is reduced so even prior to the arousal the receiver is more calm and relaxed and thus able to be more aware of his own arousal process. By incorporating within the massage various physical and psychological techniques the receiver can recognise his own arousal ladder and the speed with at which he climbs to orgasm. Once recognised he can then apply these techniques when in an intimate situation with a partner. Better communication between himself and the partner of his ascent to arousal will also reduce anxiety and also enable the partner to assist with these techniques. A common sexual complaint among men is the inability to orgasm. There's a wide range of possible explanations. Physiological causes general fall into one of the following categories. • Hypothyroidism: The thyroid gland does not produce enough hormone. How can a Sensual Massage help Psychological reasons may also be part or in some cases the main reason: These may include depression, anxiety, or a panic disorder of some kind and massage can be used an effective way to lessen these. By putting the sufferer in a rested state and reducing the anxiety around the need to perform, allows arousal to build without fearful interference. The caring intimate nature of the massage builds trust and with this trust the “triggers” that are required to release the orgasm can function better. However it may take several sessions for total relaxation to take place so a series of appointments over a few weeks can be more effective. For further enquiries or to make an appointment with Col, please complete the form below or call me on 07966 522 696 or email colin@massage33.com |
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