Psychosensual Massage

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Areas of anxiety that I often help clients with include:

• Intermittent Erectile Dysfunction - (why does this happen just at the worst moment!)
• Permanent Erectile Dysfunction - (is my sex life really over!)
• Premature Ejaculation - (why cant I control myself, they must be really disappointed!)
• Delayed Orgasm - (I just cant get there when your around!)
• Same Sex Intimacy Investigation - (am I turning gay?)
• Lack of Intimacy - (I just need to feel my self again!)
• Fear of intimacy - ( I want it but when its there I turn away!)
• Lack of Libido - (I remember the days!)
• Cultural / Religious concerns around sex - (my body says one thing my mind says another!)
• Sexual Performance Education - (I want to know how to make it great for others and myself!)

So if you experience any of the above please take time to read on to learn more about how this massage can help you.

If you have a specific issue you want to discuss further or wish to make an appointment then please use forms found at the bottom of the page.

A Sensual Massage with understanding

Without doubt receiving intimate sensual touch is probably one of the most pleasant feelings that a human being can experience. It is an integral part of the human condition and is arguably one of our earliest forms of communication. Our bodies are specifically designed to receive it - our psychology programmed to react to it.

From our earliest Homo sapiens ancestors who lived 250,000 years ago to probably as recent as 5000 years ago, tactile intimacy between humans would have been offered and received unconditionally. It would have been given without cultural, religious or social controls, helping to establish both mixed and same sex cooperation. It would have ensured group security and collaboration, ensuring the support one another in times of danger and stress. It would have determined hierarchy, helped build trusting relationships, promote team work and loving bonds and of course if occurring between male and female, often lead to the ultimate sexual experience of intercourse to be naturally followed by childbirth and the continuation of the species.

The desire to be touched is within us all. It connects to the deepest and most ancient part of our brain known as the Stem or Reptilian brain. This ancient part of the brain which can be traced back to over 200 million years of mammal evolution is concerned with our most basic primary needs such as survival, physical maintenance, hoarding, dominance, preening and mating and from these basic urges activate the emotions of love, hate, fear, lust, and contentment.

In early man the distinction of intimate behaviour being appropriate or inappropriate would not have existed, there would have been no social, cultural or religious rules controlling our natural desires and need for intimate touch. Our behaviour would have been instinctual, when hungry; we would have looked for food, when under threat; we fought or ran and when in need of a sense of belonging; we would have sought intimacy from other humans. There is no greater affirmation of an individual’s acceptance than to touch and be touched intimately, to care and be cared for, without condition, expectation or obligation and it is this philosophy that is the basis of Psychosensual Massage.

By providing a client with a non judgemental, honest open environment where it is not only “ok” to feel arousal but actually appropriate makes this massage probably one of the most relaxing fulfilling experiences one can have. It enables both the body and mind to relax in a way that regular massage does not. By removing any fear of the body reacting inappropriately the mind remains calm, additionally as the body becomes more sensually aroused the sensory messages sent to the brain from the skin and erogenous areas re affirm the mind that we are safe to let our defences down and enjoy the experience. Consequently muscles relax, the mind falls in to a sub conscious state and for a few hours we can literally exist in the “moment”.

For whom is Psychosensual Massage good for?
Generally everyone, but of course since we are all individuals each with a unique life experience and lifestyle the benefit can vary from person to person. For many the massage can be a glorious discovery of escapism, for others it can be a place to release the tension of a hectic life, for some it can be about exploration of the self, ones sensuality and sexuality. It can also be very beneficial for those experiencing sexual anxieties and performance problems. In men erectile issues, premature ejaculation, sexuality exploration, loss of libido, fear of intimacy are some of the issues I have helped male clients with in the past 5 years. For women the massage can also be about some of the issues mentioned above but also the opportunity to receive a massage that includes intimate touch and arousal without the need for sexual performance. It can be enlightening to have the body physically adored without condition and new experience for many women.

Booking A Psychosensual Massage
These can only be booked with Colin

£155 - Single Appointment
Single 2.5 hour appointments treating issues such as:
Occasional Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation and Delayed Orgasm, Sexuality exploration, bi curiosity and how to incorporate a broader sexuality into a straight lifestyle (appointment starts with a 30 minute discussion followed by a 90 minute sensual massage applying techniques and strategies and finished by a 20 minute summing up discussion and shower.

£290 - A Series of 3 Appointments, (paid at first appointment = £97 per apt)
For clients wishing to receive advice and support and also learn techniques to help with more chronic issues such as Regular, Situational or Permanent Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, Delayed Orgasm or who have a Fear of Sex or Intimacy or any other sexual performance or sexual relationship related issue I recommend a minimum of 3 sessions. The first appointment is 2.5 hours (30 min discussion with 90 min massage) with following appointments at 2 hours (20 min discussion and 75 min massage)

Psychosensual Process

• 1st Appointment – Introduction, explanation, understanding, building trust
• 2nd Appointment – Relaxation, awareness, techniques, self focus and self awareness
• 3rd Appointment – Liberation of desires, confidence to express, sexual and sensual connection
  

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How the Treatment is given

Safe relaxing non judgemental environment - openness and understanding

The treatment is given in the quiet relaxed environment of the treatment room. Upon arrival 15-30 min is put aside to talk through your motivations, expectations and any concerns or questions you have for the massage. I give you a clear description of the process explaining the level of sensuality and any hear any concerns you have. If you have not had one before arriving then you can take a shower prior to the beginning of the treatment.
The treatment room is warm, lights are low and gentle music is played throughout and non aromatised grape seed oil is used for the massage.

A journey from tension and stress through arousal and orgasm to ultimate relaxation

The Pshycosensual Massage is given slowly and seductively, I take you on a 4 part journey from the usual state of tension that many often arrive in through a journey of relaxation and arousal to the orgasmic high and eventual fulfilment of total rest. Each phase of the massage has its particular focus and motivation.

• Stage 1 Sensual Therapeutic phase
• Stage 2 Gentle Arousal phase
• Stage 3 Sensual Arousal phase
• Stage 4 Erotic and Orgasmic phase.

Sensual Therapeutic Phase

The Sensual Therapeutic phase lasts about 20 minutes and is focused on the shoulders and back of the upper body. The aim is to encourage your mind and body into the first stages of relaxation. With the use of light touch, feathers and soft caring strokes combined with more traditional deep tissue muscle work your body will begin to “let go”. This is followed by gentle teasing of the more intimate areas of the body causing  your skins sensory preceptors to send signals to the brain, the brain responds by stimulating the body’s para sympathetic nervous system (relax and rest mode) and as the brain begins to register the arousal the hold it has on the muscles begins to release.

Gentle Arousal phase

By now you will be well on the way of the sensual journey, you will still be aware of what is taking place but beginning to “drift off” losing yourself to the sensations of the intimate touch. I continue with further exploration into the intimate crevices of the body namely the neck, armpits, groin and pelvic areas. Arousal begins to increase usually causing erection (men) and lubrication (women) accompanied by deeper breathing and some involuntary movements of the body. The skin becomes more sensitive as touch between the masseur and client increases and the mind begins to drifts in and out of awareness.

The Sensual Arousal phase

During this phase I make direct contact with the genitals, in the male the Penis (now erect), Scrotum and in women the outer lips of the Vagina and areas around the Groin and Anus are lightly touched and massaged. At this stage, the intention is to not to take the client to orgasm but to hold them at a high level of arousal and then falling back to relaxation and back again to high arousal. During this phase in the massage the client is encouraged to be self focussed enjoying the stimulation and not to worry about their “performance” or the to be focussed on someone else. However for some 1-1 contact with the masseur can be a way to create and enhance an intimate bond without it becoming sexual.

Orgasm to Relaxation

The male sexual response cycle consists of excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. The first 3 phases of this massage covers the first two elements of this cycle. During this phase of the massage the body and mind becomes paradoxically, both deeply relaxed and highly aroused, this contradictory state causes the bodies’ nervous system to oscillate between its sympathetic and para sympathetic modes as the mind focuses on the sensations of the final ascent to orgasm. At the pinnacle of orgasm control is given over to the primal response of orgasm and in men during ejaculation the muscles tense, the breathing increases, often expressing the sensation verbally. Orgasms are usually a combination of peripheral (genital or extra-genital) stimulation and a mental “letting go.” Neurologically speaking, it is accepted that the pathways for ejaculation and orgasm are under a tonic inhibitory influence, and that the release of this inhibition is cerebrally influenced. Without this release, the normal orgasmic and ejaculatory reflexes cannot be expressed. With the final orgasmic rush comes a massive release of energy, triggering the immediate after effect of relaxation when the male body, immediately following ejaculation, falls back into the deep state of resolution. The body relaxes and encouraged by stroking of the head and scalp the body quickly falls in to “rest, relax and re cooperate mode. With the drifting into a deep state of sub conscious even light sleep.

Psychosensual Massage as a therapy to help men identify and remedy sexual performance issues and sexual anxieties?

Men

Erectile Dysfunction

For many men, the image of self is inevitably linked to a perception of masculinity which in turn involves functioning and performing well sexually. Things can go wrong at any point of the 3 stages of producing and maintaining an erection and can be as a result of either physiological or psychological influences or often a combination of both.
Things can go wrong at any point of the 3 stages of producing and maintaining an erection: First Stage: Sexual arousal, getting sexually stimulated from our thoughts and senses. Second Stage Erection: The brain communicates the sexual arousal to the body which increases the blood flow to the penis. Third Stage Erection: Blood vessels that supply the penis relax allowing an increased blood supply to flow into the shafts that produce the erection.

Physiological causes can be due to a variety of conditions such as:

Cardiovascular diseases, Diabetes, Disease of the Nervous System, Aging, Medications, Smoking, Alcoholism, and Hormone Imbalance and can be treated with medical support. However in most cases the condition can also be influenced by Psychological processes and in many cases be the prime reason for intermittent erectile dysfunction. Generally if involuntary erection occurs during the night or on waking in the morning but does not occur or is lost during conscious sex (with another or even during masturbation) then other emotional based influences will be the source.

How Can a Sensual Massage Help?

The environment of the massage room and the openness of the masseur immediately change the modus operandi and create a supportive caring situation where the focus on performance is removed and where the receiver can concentrate on what he is feeling rather than what he is doing. As the massage unfolds the body becomes further relaxed, with the sensual strokes of the massage encouraging arousal to take place. With anxiety levels low and the body rested with attention on “self” erection will generally occur. However throughout the massage the masseur will incorporate certain movements that may mildly raise anxiety thus effecting the erection. By observing and reading these minute changes of the dynamic the masseur can often interpret the psychological triggers that flick the arousal switch giving an indication as to what emotion is influencing the erection process. At the same time with the attention on himself the receiver is also able to become aware of the moments when erection is effected either positively or negatively. Discussion following the massage often reveals a core emotion/reaction that is at the root of the anxiety enabling further counselling to target better the influencing dynamic and its source.

Premature Ejaculation

What is premature ejaculation? (PE)

Definitions of premature ejaculation have ranged from "coming within six thrusts" to "coming within two minutes" and even "coming before your partner". The last one can be particularly misleading if you have a partner who likes to take up to an hour to reach orgasm.
A simpler definition is that if you come before you want to and you feel you're not able to control it, then you're suffering from premature ejaculation (or PE for short).
Bear in mind that most men will come sooner than they'd like on some occasions, particularly if under stress or in situations of very high excitement. Generally, if you are unable to control when you come more than 50 per cent of the time, then it becomes a problem.
Some men may only suffer from PE when they're having sex. Some feel they come too quickly whatever the stimulation with a partner. Others feel they have little control even when they're masturbating alone.  Men with PE aren't able to recognise what therapists call the "point of inevitability". This is a sensation that occurs just a few moments before ejaculation. Men who don't suffer from PE are able to recognise this sensation and either stop or change stimulation until the urgency has subsided.
Very occasionally, premature ejaculation results from a physical condition such as a urinary tract or prostate infection. Recent research suggests that some men may have a physiological predisposition in the nervous system to ejaculate quickly. But for most men, ejaculation will often be quicker in times of stress or ill health.

How Can a Sensual Massage Help?

By providing a calm supportive environment the stress and excitement levels often contributing to PE are lessened considerably. Additionally by talking through the issues before the massage anxiety of performance is reduced so even prior to the arousal the receiver is more calm and relaxed and thus able to be more aware of his own arousal process. By incorporating within the massage various physical and psychological techniques the receiver can recognise his own arousal ladder and the speed with at which he climbs to orgasm. Once recognised he can then apply these techniques when in an intimate situation with a partner. Better communication between himself and the partner of his ascent to arousal will also reduce anxiety and also enable the partner to assist with these techniques.

Inability to Orgasm

A common sexual complaint among men is the inability to orgasm. There's a wide range of possible explanations. Physiological causes general fall into one of the following categories.

• Hypothyroidism: The thyroid gland does not produce enough hormone.
• Hypogonadism: Testicles do not produce enough testosterone.
• Neurological problems: Strokes, multiple sclerosis, and diabetic neuropathy, can limit your ability to orgasm.
• Physical injuries: Spinal cord injuries and other major wounds can have an effect.
• Prostate problems: These include infections or surgery affecting the prostate or other pelvic organs.

How can a Sensual Massage help

Psychological reasons may also be part or in some cases the main reason: These may include depression, anxiety, or a panic disorder of some kind and massage can be used an effective way to lessen these. By putting the sufferer in a rested state and reducing the anxiety around the need to perform, allows arousal to build without fearful interference. The caring intimate nature of the massage builds trust and with this trust the “triggers” that are required to release the orgasm can function better. However it may take several sessions for total relaxation to take place so a series of appointments over a few weeks can be more effective.

Alternatively, for a more immediate response, call 07966 522 696 or email colin@massage33.com